I learned it the hard way: trying to deal with an emotional manipulator can cost you dearly. Emotional manipulators defy logic. They derive satisfaction from controlling you and creating chaos.
I learned it the hard way: trying to deal with an emotional manipulator can cost you dearly.
Emotional manipulators are toxic.
We all know what it feels like to be emotionally manipulated. It can be extremely damaging and destructive. Because emotional manipulation can be so destructive, it is important to recognize it in your own life and to make it a rule to stay away from the emotional manipulators.
Emotional manipulators are naturally very skillful. They are incredibly skilled liars. They will insist an incident did not happen when it did. They will insist they did or said something when they did not. By doing so, they undermine your grasp on reality. They are so good at it that you end up questioning your own sanity.
Emotional manipulators will tell you what you want to hear, but their actions do not match their words. They will pledge their support, but, when it comes time to follow through, they will act as though your requests are entirely unreasonable. They will tell you how lucky they are to know you, and then act as though you are a burden. They make you mold your perception of reality according to what is convenient to them.
they are masters at leveraging your guilt to their advantage. Whatever the problems the two of you are having, you created that situation. Nothing is ever their responsibility. If you get mad or upset, it is your fault for having unreasonable expectations. If they get mad, it is your fault for upsetting them.
They are an emotional black hole.
Whatever emotional manipulators are feeling, they are geniuses at sucking everyone around them into those emotions. If they are in a bad mood, everyone around them knows it. They are so skillful that, not only is everyone aware of their mood, they feel it too.
They eagerly agree to help and then act like a martyr. Whatever they agreed to do is a huge burden. The goal? To make you feel guilty, indebted and maybe even crazy. No matter what problems you may have, they have it worse. The message? You have no reason to complain, so shut the fuck up.
They know all your buttons and do not hesitate to push them. They know your weak spots, and they are quick to use that knowledge against you. Their awareness of your emotions is off the charts and they use it to manipulate you, not to make you feel better.
Stay away from the emotional manipulators.
Emotional manipulators will drive you crazy because of their irrational behavior. Everything they do or say goes against reason. Remove yourself from their traps. You do not need to respond to the emotional chaos. Avoid allowing yourself to respond to them emotionally. Quit trying to beat them at their own game. Distance yourself from them. Establish boundaries. And do so consciously and proactively.
Stick to your guns.
Nobody can manipulate you without your consent and cooperation.Stay away from the emotional manipulators.
They are toxic.
Owner of Bunkumless.com and King Global Earth and Environmental Sciences Corporation, JMD, a former attorney, is a Columnist for The Futurist Daily News and editor of the Social and Political Blog JMDlive.com Follow JMD @ jmdlive
Original article: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/285780